We continue learning with each new day and if there’s anything that’s more surprising than anything, it’s the very fact that there are plenty of distinctly different and unique people across the planet today who have features that creates them unique.
29-year-old Kenyan Julian Peter was born without a womb, cervix or a vagina. Twelve years after this discovery, she has finally gathered the courage to share her interesting story with the BBC’s Anne Ngugi.
I was born with a condition called Mayer-Rokitansky-Küster-Hauser syndrome (MRKH), where you’ve got no womb or vagina, and you’ll also end up with only one kidney.
A woman who has MRKH can never get periods or experience what menstruation is.
I don’t have a uterus, so I’ve never had periods. this is often the traditional that i do know , i do not feel bad about it.
People have different feelings about who i’m .
‘They can say whatever they want’
Someone told me that I should go somewhere to be prayed for.
Another person said that because I come from Ukambani [a region that’s stereotypically linked to witchcraft] then my grandmother had something to try to to with this.
They can say whatever they need to but what really matters is how I take it. If I were to concentrate to them it might start affecting me, and that i would start thinking that what they were saying was true.
I discovered I had the syndrome once I was a 17-year-old school student.
I visited hospital as I had problem with my legs, which were swollen. the primary thing the doctor asked me was once I last had my period. I had never had one.
They did a scan. the primary image indicated that my reproductive tract was closed from the surface .
I went through an operation to open it, which wasn’t successful.
I had another scan that showed I had no uterus or vagina, which was once I was diagnosed with MRKH.
I cried on the primary day and therefore the refore the second day and the third, on the other hand I moved on. i used to be only 17 and quite small, so my priority was to urge back to high school .
I was in hospital with my mother, my only parent, and therefore the diagnosis shocked her. i feel as a parent there have been questions she was sure to ask herself, Essentially she was wondering if she had done something wrong.
‘I didn’t want the operation’
As I had studied biology, I understood what the doctor was saying that first time.
I told her that I didn’t want to travel through with an operation at that time as I wanted to travel back to high school to finish my education.
Ten years later, I went back to hospital and had a successful operation.
The type of MRKH that I had meant that I had no vagina, no womb and that i only have one kidney. My vaginal canal wasn’t there and it had to be created.
My life is normal as MRKH doesn’t interfere with how i would like to measure . except for some it’s emotionally disturbing and other people might got to attend a psychologist to simply accept the condition.
When you realise the implications of the condition that you simply have, you’ve got to ditch parturition to children.
I have had four scans and no ovaries were found, so even retrieving eggs for IVF can’t be done.
You must accept the way you’re . But realising that you simply aren’t like other women is difficult, you would like someone who you’ll ask .
I’ve met many of us here in Kenya with the condition and that we share our experiences. I accepted my condition early and that i have accepted myself, so I’m OK.
Explaining to a partner
I have been in relationships. But i do not let things go too far before sitting down with them and letting them realize my condition.
If they need to simply accept it they’re going to accept it. But you recognize , citizenry are just citizenry .
A large percentage of the people I even have told have gone away. Others accuse me of lying, they think that i’m saying it to chase them away.
Right now I’m not during a relationship, but it’s all God’s doing.
When it involves having sex, I had the surgery to reconstruct the vaginal canal in 2018, so it’s just over a year after and that i am not able to roll in the hay .
Neither am I able to marry . If we wanted to possess children we could adopt.
It took me a minimum of 10 years to make a decision to share my story with the general public .
There are people that don’t understand what MRKH is and that i want to boost awareness.